Finding THE ONE is like shopping for a dress. There are so many dresses on the shelf and you will just pick a few that catches your eye to try them on. After trying the selected few and parading in front of the fitting room's room mirror, you make your choice. You may decide to look around a little longer to find better alternatives. But day after day, your feet just unconsciously find its way to the same mall, to the same shelf, to see THE DRESS.
The dress may seem so immaculate, it may seem to tantalize you more each time you see it. You dream of yourself clad in that impeccable dress, dancing and swaying in it. A gamut of emotions overwhelmed you and you could no longer resist the temptation to leave the dress on the shelf anymore, with the risk of it being bought by another person.
You rush down to the mall, you grab the dress that seem so beautiful as it sparkles and stands out from the other dresses. You pick it up, scrutinize every detail of it to make sure that the dress is free from flaws -- no holes, no falling hemlines... You make the payment with a wide smile on your face, thank the sales person and rush home immediately to indulge in the dress that is finally yours!
When you reached home, you realized that this dress is not as impeccable as you desired. You realized that as you were scrutinizing on its workmanship and the aesthetic point of view of THE ONE and you missed out the label. The shop may call the dress, “leather dress” but the label tells you that it is only 20% leather and 80% nylon. You feel cheated. You should have read the fine prints. But the payment is already made and you are legally bounded to THE ONE.
On the other hand, you still love the leather dress. You are willing to overlook the imperfections as the dress still overwhelms you despite it being only 20% leather.
This is the time where you make compromises. You cut off the label on the dress and admire the dress as how you would without the realization of it not being leather.
It is your newly bought dress. You feel passionate about it. You are all over it day in and out. Having more encounters with your dress, you further realize that the dress do give you some problems. The zip may zip your skin from time to time. This is something that you will not know until you have bought it and used it over a period of time.
Compromises have to be made again and this time the compromises are more difficult than before as it needs you to change yourself if you decided to make these compromises.
There are only 3 options available assuming that you still love the dress and you have no intention on disposing it.
Option 1: Alteration
You can alter the dress but this is as good as getting the moon. The zip zips you, so you want to what? Add some cloth at the zip area to give that extra allowance?
Option 2: Lose weight
This is on you. The zip is zipping you, you can jolly well decide to internalize the problem, make compromises and try to make the best out of the situation by losing weight to fit into that dress. However, there is a limit to how much weight you can lose. If you have tried your best and it still zips you, then how?
Option 3: compromise on option 1 and 2
This is the best option so far and it is the only option that entails the continuation of your relationship with your dress. You should keep wearing the dress, stretching it little by little, making it slightly bigger. When the dress has done its part on expanding a little without alteration, you should also do your part by losing weight. When both parties join hands and work together, an amiable solution may be reached. The fairy tale ending may be achievable and you may be able to live happily ever after with your dress.
